Saturday, January 31, 2009

Dating & Mating #1...Research and Development

This particular topic is numbered because all there is to say will need to be covered over several posts.

There is an innate desire in us all to be someone's #1. We want to matter, to be special, to connect with another person. This desire drives us to search, through dating, and to try time and time again whatever the pain and heartbreak we may encounter along the way. What would you do to give yourself a better chance for an enjoyable and and less painful journey down relationship road? Would you be willing to research and develop your skills?

Understanding the opposite sex is a quest that we all embark on. We are guided by friends, family and media of every sort. In the world of relationships, and life, information is knowledge. The more you know and understand any topic the better equipped and more likely you are to succeed.

In your quest for successful relationships let me make some media recommendations:

Dateable: are you? are they? written by Justin Lookadoo and Hayley DiMarco.
for men only and for women only both written by Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn.

These are both quick read, meaning short, books and although Dateable targets high school dating and For Men/Women Only targets adults they both do a great job of providing insight to the inner workings of the opposite sex. You will be well served to read them both.

Once you get this basic understanding you are ahead of the game in the dating world. To go to the next level, or a deeper relationship, I would recommend these books:

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
Please Understand Me by David Keirsey.

These books require more effort but will provide you with a better understanding of your self as well as tools for successful relationships in all areas of your life.

Get ahead of the game and remember; you will only get out of a relationship as much as you put into it.


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