Friday, July 29, 2011
Red Flag - If in a month of steady dating your friends start to question some behaviors of your new #1 and you find yourself annoyed with them or begin to isolate yourself from them, you need to look inward as there may be an unhealthy reason you are willing to ignore negative tendencies. This is especially true of individuals who connect with, and stay in, abusive relationships.
Everyone has positive and negative behaviors, even you. You will NEVER find someone that does not, or will not, annoy you with what they do, think or how they act. You will at some time annoy them too. This is fact. What becomes important is watching for Red Flag behaviors; can you live with them or will those Red Flags become a Deal Breaker.
Red Flags are those bothersome behaviors that you don't do or are not used to. They are generally considered small annoyances but once in a committed relationship where the BIG differences of finances and child rearing must be addressed, it will be the small annoyances such as; toilet paper, over or under, toothpaste, squeeze or roll up, clothes hamper or corner of the room, shoe rack or in the hall. These small things will be the straw that breaks the relationship-camel's back.
Deal Breakers are subjects that need to be addressed BEFORE you commit to a relationship. Young relationships tend to avoid these hard topics because disagreement is likely and no one wants an argument. You do yourself, as well as your potential partner, a disservice by not discussing issues most important to you. Important topics such as; how many children, child rearing practices, who's career is primary, moving, religious views, commitments to aging parents.
Close friends and family members see your relationship from a different perspective. Listen, and hear, what they are saying. Try to see what they see. A Red Flag may illuminate a Deal Breaker that can save both of you precious time and heartache.
If you are already in a committed relationship and having difficulty keep in mind selfishness is what causes and perpetuates many of these issues. Forgiveness is the only sure way of finding lasting happiness.
These books are a good investment for everybody. Making Love Last and Please Understand Me.
Friday, July 22, 2011
We've experienced some good coffee/food moments in our recent Friday Forums. Green Mountain Coffee has both a Coconut and a Blueberry blend, each with a fine hint of flavor enjoyed by all. We've received another coffee suggestion: Berres Brothers Coffee out of Watertown WI. Their Highlander Grogg blend is on our list to try.
The new food products included Mini Reese's Cups, Hershey's Cookies and Creme Drops, Chocolate Marshmallow Bites, Blueberry Newtons, Wrigley's 5 Watermelon Gum and two different types of fiber bars.
There wasn't any item that got rejected. M. offered that the marshmallow bites didn't satisfy the chocolate craving although she came back later and rescinded that opinion. In the middle of the afternoon those Marshmallow Bites really hit the spot.
Norwex enviro-cleaning towel. They have an environmental cleaning cloth and polishing cloth that is a Clean Queen's dream. Using only the damp cleaning cloth, which has silver for anti-bacterial cleaning, it tackles hard water, grease and built up dirt. The polishing cloth leaves a streak free shine that is exceptional.
My fellow Clean Queen sister-in-law K. tried to tell me but honestly these are pricey for cleaning towels. She finally put one in my hand and I was an immediate convert. If you are a cleaner (you know who you are) spend the $30 for the basic package of cleaning + polishing towels and you won't be disappointed.
What have you tried recently that is worth mentioning?
Friday, July 15, 2011
To catch up: #1 Research and Development, #2 Judging a Book by It's Cover, #3 Unequal Yolking Equals a Rough Journey, and #4 Keeping Relationships Alive.
Have you heard, or said, any of these statements? "Just a pretty face.", "All hat and no cattle.", "They aren't that good looking but they're really nice.", "A plain Jane." "Nice lookin' but there's not much under the hood." Have you later gotten to know someone better and thought they were more intelligent and often better looking?
Most often when single, people can be more concisous of their appearance (see #3) and generally attempt to put their best foot forward. This is a good thing, it's just not the ONLY thing.
Friday, July 1, 2011
This message hit close to home being in line with my 2011 words to live by: Be Not Afraid. At the start of the new year I declared these to by my words for 2011. In January the calendar already had three big events, not to mention the family shift of graduation and eventually starting college.