Friday, July 15, 2011

Dating & Mating #5: Don't Be Sold on the Packaging

Dating and Mating was a series I began in 2009.  The first four continue to get hits plus my son is heading to college so this information seems timely, and prudent. 

To catch up:  #1 Research and Development, #2 Judging a Book by It's Cover, #3 Unequal Yolking Equals a Rough Journey, and #4 Keeping Relationships Alive.

Have you heard, or said, any of these statements?  "Just a pretty face.", "All hat and no cattle.", "They aren't that good looking but they're really nice.", "A plain Jane." "Nice lookin' but there's not much under the hood."  Have you later gotten to know someone better and thought they were more intelligent and often better looking?

Most often when single, people can be more concisous of their appearance (see #3) and generally attempt to put their best foot forward.  This is a good thing, it's just not the ONLY thing.

My son made the observation, now that school is out, that without a central gathering place it is more difficult to get to know someone.  School offers a consistent meeting place with classes and regular lunch dates.  The workplace serves the same purpose.  Here we see the same people everyday, get to know each other and subsequently form attachments.

I want to address relationship pitfalls especially prevelant among the young and unattached.  Many people leave high school anticipating, and hoping, to find their life partner during the "college" years.  Fresh out of high school there is the idea of no pressure, no hurry, attached to a willingness and desire to test drive.  Pretty packaging, of both sexes, takes precedence in the choosing. 

BE AWARE, many a regrettable experience began on good looks and little conversation.  Hormones and flushed feelings are allowed to drive us into situations that should have more consideration and communication.  Selfishness is generally to blame; so how do we stop a bad relationship from beginning?

Show some respect for yourself and for others.  Show some restraint.  Don't grab, buy, take or touch things because they look tasty, pretty or free.  You are the master of your fate, the captain of your soul.  Take care.

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  1. Excellent advice! Have a wonderful weekend! :)

  2. Good post...oh the conversations around our house when they visit from our three 20plus year olds...all unattached. The one with the growing list is the college graduate...age 25, oh my!

    We have trained and instructed through all the years, now we spend a lot of time on our knees in we have through the years for their spouses.

  3. Great post. You should put together a booklet, or a book depending on how long this gets. You have some great points and you put them to together in a very entertaining way as well as instructional. Our kids so need this.

  4. What a wonderful post. I too wish it could get into more hands....have you thought about doing a booklet as Shanda suggested? It's very valuable advice........