Christmas break is over and L. is back at school. In 2010 our family participated in a Wellness Program that helped us make significant lifestyle changes. We exercise regularly and often walk a neighborhood path. When L. is home he makes a point of getting us out walking, daily
Our walks recreate that special after school time. Current conversations often revolve around dating and relationships. Our desire is strong for L. to meet that special girl. A girl he can build a loving relationship that will last their lifetime with. The odds for them to be successful in this world are so long. How can a couple shorten the odds?
It is not uncommon for me to say, "If it is that important to you it is a topic to discuss before getting serious." Could a variety of serious relationship landmines be missed by discussing mundane topics early? These are just some of the topics I would encourage anyone to broach in conversation with that possible 'significant other':
2. Do you fold/put away your laundry or leave it in the basket until you wear it again?
3. What is/was regular meal time like; home cooked, eat out, carry out?
4. Do you regularly arrive just in time, before time, or late?
5. What is you opinion about daycare?
6. What was your relationship like with your grandparents?
7. How did your mom/dad interact with their in-laws?
8. What is your level of clean; cluttered but clean, don't like to dust or vacuum but can't stand clutter, clean queen, hoarder.
9. What is your current debt level?
10. How did your parent's disagree; shout and stomp out, go quiet and brood, calm discussion?
What other issues would you suggest a possible couple consider?